How to reinvent your friendships after the pandemic?

Reinventing your friendships after the pandemic with host Rolonda Watts, featuring Glenda D Shaw. Set boundaries, be open to new friends, learn tolerance through this period of anxiety. Close friendships help you thrive by making you happier and healthier.

I was recently a guest on Rolonda’s Clubhouse show, and we discussed how to reinvent our friendships after the pandemic. We had a hearty discussion about setting boundaries. So, what does that mean: setting boundaries? Clearly stating what your need to your friend without accusation or anger. For example, “I feel frustrated because you haven’t shown up on time at least five times.” Set down how you feel with a factual analysis of the situation.

Then, be open to hear what you friend has to say. She may agree, or she may disagree. And I suggest you discuss this boundary in a neutral space–a cafe, a community park–this way you can keep the conversation temperature down. Enjoy this exchange as it will help you both grow and learn from each other.

In my book, Better You Better Friends -A Whole New Approach to Friendship I discuss this topic in greater detail. So, check it my book to review more examples and options! Reinvent your friendships now we’re emerging from the pandemic!

There have been many friend challenges recently as we’re politically divided as well as being physically separated. You may wear a mask and feel threatened when your friend is less likely to wear one. This is when you can set a temporary boundary – take a time out until the mask issue is resolved in the community.

Also, be kind to your friends as we’re all experiencing increased anxiety and frustration. Showing kindness even if you may not be feeling it, is a wonderful practice. You really don’t have to express every feeling you have in the moment. Take control of your mind and emotions.

If you are feeling anxious then call a friend, and let them know how you’re feeling. Reaching out to others is vital in a friendship. And by reaching out to them, they’ll feel more comfortable reaching out to you when they’re facing a challenge! Reinvent this protocol in your friendship moving forward.

It’s about becoming more aware of your friendships, and that happens when you show them the best of yourself.

Here’s a link to my last post that discusses how to show up for a friend: Who You Gonna Call-Facing Fears with Friends.

Remember… a great friend starts with you!

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